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How do I tell my parents I’m pansexual?

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How do I tell my parents I’pansexual 

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Hello there and welcome to Ask Pat, 

You have asked how do you tell your parents you are pansexual. Good question! 

As the person coming out, you’ve been thinking about your LGBTQ identity for a while now, but it can take time for parents to adjust. Coming out can build a better relationship with your parents as you are being honest and real when doing so, but the conversation can go many ways and you might get stressed about how to have this conversation with them. 

You might want to consider when to tell them – so it happens in a moment when you all feel relaxed – if you feel safe coming out, where to come out – somewhere you feel comfortable and which is private – and talking to others who have gone through the experience of coming out before – it can give you reassurance and some good ideas of how to do it. You should also be ready for questions, they might have a few! 

You are not alone. There is support available. Childline is always here to listen to you, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and it is free and confidential. You can call us on 1800 66 66 66, text us on 50101 or webchat with us through our website www.childline.ie. Childline is here to listen to what’s going on for you at the moment and we would love to chat with you.   

There are organisations dedicated to supporting the LGBTQ+ community, such as LGBT Ireland: www.lgbt.ie. They have a national helpline you can call if you need to: https://lgbt.ie/lgbt-helpline-opening-hours/. You can also find resources on their website on how to come out, like this guide: https://lgbt.ie/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Coming-Out-As-You-BeLonG-To-Youth-Services.pdf. You can find a lot of resources online with tips and plans described step by step. If you are looking for something along those lines, this one could be very helpful for you: https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/how-to-come-out-to-parents/. 

Remember that coming out is different for everyone. However you choose to do it, it’s important that you are happy for this person to know. 

Thanks again for contacting us. We hope you find this response helpful and we look forward to your call.   

Take care, 

Pat 

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