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How do I talk to my mother about my anxiety?

Your Question

Hi Alex I wanted to talk to you about mental health 

I found out that I’m suffering from anxiety for a few years and my mother laughed in my face and told me we could get a therapist, that was 5 months ago and it’s like she doesn’t care a slights bit 

Is there anyway I would be able to tell her again without being shouted at?

Answer

Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.     

Thank you for contacting us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, or what’s going on for us, but we also know how important it is to talk about it.  

Reaching out to Ask Alex is a huge step forward to seeking help. 

Telling your parents that you have anxiety can be a daunting task, but it’s an important step towards getting the support and help you need. Chatting to your Mother seems to be a challenge for you, it may help to try some conversation starters such as:

 “Can we talk about something important? I’ve been feeling very anxious lately, and I think it’s more than just normal stress.” 

“I’ve been struggling with anxiety, and I think it’s time to talk to a professional about it. Can you help me find someone to talk to?” 

“I want to share something with you that’s been hard for me. I’ve been experiencing a lot of anxiety, and it’s affecting my life. I need your support to manage it.” 

These strategies may help to open the conversation.  

Use “I” statements to express your feelings. For example, “I have been feeling very anxious lately, and it’s affecting my daily life.” Explain your anxiety: Describe what anxiety is and how it manifests for you. For instance, you might say, “I often feel very nervous, my heart races, and I find it hard to concentrate.” 

It may also help to provide examples or share specific instances. Give concrete examples of when you’ve felt anxious. This can help your parents understand the severity and impact of your anxiety. Common examples may include going to school or other activities. It may also help to mention triggers; If there are specific triggers, let them know. This could help them understand what might be causing or exacerbating your anxiety. 

And finally it is important to reach out for support;Try to talk to someone you trust about what you’re going through, whether it’s a teacher or another family member. They may be able to offer support and guidance. 

You can always reach out to Childline if you feel you would like to talk through things a little more. Chat with us through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at  www.childline.ie. Or our free phone service is 1800 66 66 66. 

We hope that some of the above information is of use to. Please keep reaching out and know that there are supports out there that can help you.  

Take Care,  

Alex. 

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