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How do I stop my sister from being toxic? She mentally and sometimes physically abuses me and I’m sick of it to the point I want to die.

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How do I stop my sister from being toxic? She mentally and sometimes physically abuses me and I’m sick of it to the point I want to die. I feel very suicidal and don’t know how to talk to my parents that I don’t feel safe anymore.


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Pat.    

Thank you for contacting us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share our worries and concerns, but we also know how important it is to talk about how we are feeling so this is a very brave step for you to take. 

You have said that you are being mentally and physically abused by your sister to the point that you want to die, and you are finding it difficult to talk to your parents about how you are feeling.  

No one has the right to harm you or hurt you physically, mentally, or emotionally. Every child and young person have the right to be safe, to be cared for and to be treated with love and respect. It is also important to remember that your feelings matter, and you have a right to be heard. Your parents could provide you with emotional support and/or accompany you to your local GP or help you to get in touch with an organisation that specialises in assisting young people who are going through a tough time. However, we understand that it can be difficult to open up to those closest to us about how we are feeling. Perhaps it may help if you write your parents a letter. In it, you could let them know how you feel and that you would like some support for your mental health. Are there any other trusted adults in your life who you may feel comfortable talking to? This may be a grandparent, teacher, or coach. If you feel like you would be better off talking to a trusted adult that you do not know, maybe you could call Childline on 1800 66 66 66, contact us by text on 50101, or through our webchat at . The Childline team is here to listen 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our services are free, confidential, and non-judgemental.  

If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or ending your own life, it is important to get the medical help you require at this time. Please contact your local GP or you can call 999 or 112 to get some help straight away from the emergency services or you can present yourself at an A&E Department.  

You do not have to go through this alone. There are also other organisations out there that can assist you and there is some really useful information on these websites which may help you understand what is going on for you at the minute: ; ; . You might also like to read some articles on the Childline website,   

Please remember that you do not have to experience this on your own and there are people who will listen to what is going on for you. Again, thank you for reaching out to Ask Pat, you should be proud of yourself as feeling suicidal is something that is not easy to talk about.  

Take Care, 


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