Alex's Answer

Hi there and thank you for contacting ask Alex. 

Firstly, can I say how brave you are for reaching out and asking for help. 

You asked how do I get people to forgive me.  It sounds like maybe you have been going through a tough time with friends or family in your life and you are hoping to resolve some conflict that has happened.

I wonder what has been going on for you that you talk of getting people to forgive you?  Asking for forgiveness and admitting our mistakes is an incredibly brave thing to do. Have you reached out to people who you seek forgiveness from and allowed them the time and space to talk about how they felt about what happened between you and them? You may also acknowledge your mistakes and apologise for what role you might have played in what has happened.  

I wonder also what role did others play in whatever has happened and if appropriate have they acknowledged their wrongdoing also? Finally, it is important to acknowledge that we all make mistakes, and this is ok. This is how we learn and grow as an individual. 

Although we are not sure of your exact situation where you are looking for forgiveness, some of these articles may be helpful for you to look at on our website: www.childline.ie/how-to-build-healthy-friendships-and-relationships/ ; www.childline.ie/how-to-get-past-a-fight-with-your-best-friend/ ; www.childline.ie/reconnecting-with-your-parents-or-siblings-after-a-fight/.   

If ever you need to talk about it and you don’t know who to go to, know Childline is here for you. Childline is here every day of the week, at any time. They will listen and support you whenever you need too. You can call them at 1800 66 66 66 or use the live chat on our website www.childline.ie you can start a chat by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. 

Take care of yourself, 

Alex