Alex's Answer

Hi, welcome to Ask Alex, thank you for reaching out to us.  

You are wondering how to deal with being home alone. When you ask how to deal with this, we assume being home alone is not a good experience for you, is that correct? We understand that being on your own at home can be a daunting experience – many people have similar anxieties about it – and it is important for you to know that every young person has a right to feel happy and safe in their home.  

Was there a time before when you didn’t mind being home alone? Maybe there is something you did then that can help you now to make this a less nerve-racking experience. Have you tried distracting yourself with activities that you enjoy? Have you got access to devices such as a mobile phone, a tv or music player? You could watch a show that nobody else in your home wants to watch or play your music just a little bit louder than you’re usually allowed to play it. You could also use the time alone at home to get lost in a book without being distracted by others. Perhaps you could call a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in a while and catch up with them. Would you consider working on an assignment you have for school or doing some chores like cleaning your room? These activities may help the time fly by and distract you from your anxious thoughts around being home alone. 

Do you think you could speak to a parent about how are you feeling or another trusted adult, such as a family member, teacher, neighbour or youth worker? Sometimes when we talk about what is going on for us, it can help bring us to a solution for the issue and often, we feel relieved just having said our concerns out loud.  

If you would prefer to engage in our Listening Service at this time, you are very welcome to call us for a chat on  1800 66 66 66; we are here to listen to anything that is on your mind. You can also use Childline’s text service by texting  50101 or to contact us online, visit www.childline.ie and you can register there to chat with us. All of these services are free, available 24 hours a day and are confidential and non-judgemental. 

You are incredibly brave for being honest and open about your worries and concerns. Mind yourself. We hope to hear from you soon, 

Alex