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How do I cope with rejection?

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How do I cope with rejection?


Hey there, thanks reaching out to Ask Alex 

We are sorry to hear that you are experiencing rejection. Rejection can be really hurtful and can be accompanied with various complex feelings. People may experience rejection for many different reasons, it may be from a sports team, a place in a new school, a job or even sometimes with friends and family. Rejection is challenging and it can bring up many complex feelings, such as not feeling good enough or not feeling loved. A lot of rejection we experience is out of our control, it is important to focus on what we can control such as our behaviours and feelings. One thing that could help is working on your self esteem, think about what you are good at and what you enjoy. This can be hard as sometimes we feel low after rejection, baby steps are key. Think of the small things your good at, e.g. sleeping, eating, walking, talking…

Rejection is a common part of growing up and we do have to learn to cope with it, which isnt easy. It might help to talk to a trusted adult or friend in your life about how they cope and they may be able to provide some helpful tips or words of wisdom. Dealing with rejection also helps us grow resilience which makes us stronger. A lot of the time, when we are rejected from something or by someone it often has more to do with others than ourselves! 

You are always welcome to chat with Childline through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at our free phone service is 1800 66 66 66. Our non-judgemental, anonymous, supportive listening service is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Remember, there are always people who care about you and want to support you.  

Take care of yourself, and reach out to those who can provide the support you need 


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