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How do I come out to my parents

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Hello, my name is Alejandro and I am here to ask. How can I come out to my Christian family as a homosexual and an atheist. My parents aren’t too religious tho. 


Hello there,
Thank you very much for taking the time to come on here and ask your question. That’s a really brave thing to do.
It sounds like you are part of a Christian family, but that isn’t something you want to be part of any more; you do have a choice over your beliefs. It can be very hard to walk away from these beliefs if they are followed by your family. Is this something you have chatted with your family about already? You also say that you want to come out to your Christian Community.
You mentioned in your message that you are homosexual; it seems you are aware of your sexuality. Regardless of anyone’s sexual orientation, you have the right to be respected for your choice. Before you say this to anyone else though, make sure you have accepted yourself for who you are, and then this makes it a little easier to tell others. Coming out can bring different emotions, and it is important for you to know that all these emotions are okay and totally understandable; lots of people who are coming out would experience similar feelings. There is a website called BelongTo, and they have resources on their page about coming out and tips for doing this. You can access the website at
If you would like to chat about this some more, please feel free to come on to our website at, which has an instant messaging service. Or if you would rather, come and talk with us at 1800 666 666. Both of these services are open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. Always remember it is a safe place to chat, and you would never be judged, and we can chat with you about some possible options you feel could help you.
Thanks again for taking the time to come on here and write to us.
Take care of yourself,

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