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He is so annoying

Your Question

So my dad keeps complaining. He’s like “so many dishes ughhh!!!!!!!!” But like, WHY DOESNT HE CLEAN THEM HIMSELF. what kind of spoiled dumb selfish guy complains but never fixes what he’s complaining about? Ugh. So annoying. And then he complains how I don’t clean my room and the other day I was kinda sick, but he said its because of the mold in my room. And he said it as if it was MY fault. He didn’t say it was but his tone implied it was. I’m 12. I just don’t know what to do. I guess I just needed someone to vent to. So yeah. If you have any advice please reply. Thanks alex. 

Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex.

It sounds like you are having a hard time understanding your Dad and needed to get your frustrations off your chest. We are here to listen to you, you have been very brave reaching out to us.

It is understandable that you are feeling frustrated with your Dad, it sounds like you have different ideas of how the housekeeping should be divided? What would it be like for you to discuss this with your Dad? Could you suggest a time when you are both calm to talk and try to come to an agreement about splitting and/or sharing the chores?  

We are concerned to hear that there is mould in your room that may be making you sick. You have a right to live in a safe, warm, and dry home. The mould is something that needs to be removed, treated, and prevented as soon as possible but this is not something that you can or should be responsible for. Nor is it your fault. 

Would we be right in saying that your child – father relationship is a bit strained at the moment? It is normal for any relationship to have ups and downs and all relationships takes some effort. Would you like to have a better relationship with your Dad? If so, can you think about ways in which you could come together to rebuild your relationship? Sometimes spending time together or finding a mutual hobby or activity you both like to part take in together can help with repairing your relationship. This article may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/how-to-live-with-a-parent-who-has-anger-issues/. And this one also /www.childline.ie/reconnecting-with-your-parents-or-siblings-after-a-fight/.

Remember you can always call ISPCC Childline to chat about anything that is going on for you. You can call for free on 1800 66 66 66 or chat online at www.childline.ie through Live Chat. Everything you chat about stays between you and Childline, unless you choose to give us identifying information about yourself, and you are in an at-risk situation.

Childline is open 24-hours a day, every day. So there is always somebody waiting to chat with you. We hope you can sort things out with you Dad and your relationship becomes stronger.

Look after yourself,

Alex

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