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Going out of my way to see him

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so i’m 16 and this lad who’s 18 who just graduated secondary school and finished his leaving cert who works in the local shop that i have a massive crush on. like i get butterflys in my stomach whenever i think of him and see him and i go to the shop just to see him even though the shop is like a twenty minute walk away from my house and it’s the furthest shop from my house. like he’s so funny and he’s really good looking as well help???????????????

Answer

Hi there!
 
First of all, it’s totally normal to have a crush, and it sounds like you’re experiencing some strong feelings for this lad. Crushes can be really exciting but also a bit confusing, especially when they involve someone a bit older. It’s great that you’re reaching out for advice.
 
Having butterflies in your stomach and going out of your way to see him are signs that your feelings are pretty strong. It’s important to remember that these feelings are a normal part of growing up. However, it’s also good to consider the age difference and the different stages of life you both are in. You’re in school, and he’s just graduated, which can sometimes mean different priorities and experiences.
 
When you have a crush, it can help to get to know the person better in a casual way. Maybe you can find opportunities to chat with him when you’re in the shop. You could start by talking about simple things like his day at work or common interests. This can help you understand more about him and see if you still feel the same way after knowing him better. You may like to read this article from the Childline website www.childline.ie/how-to-build-healthy-friendships-and-relationships/.
 
It’s also important to think about your feelings and what you want. Sometimes, just having a crush is enough, and it’s ok if it doesn’t go further than that. Other times, you might want to explore if there could be more to it. Just make sure that you feel comfortable and that you’re making decisions that are right for you.
 
If you’d like to chat some more about this or anything else, you can always contact us at Childline by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or Messenger at www.childline.ie (just click on the purple chat icon). We are confidential, non-judgmental, open 24/7, and always here for you for any reason, anytime.
 
Take care! Best wishes,
Alex

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