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Girly-girl or Tom-boy style

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Hey Alex. So i can’t seem to choose between girly-ish girl, like cottage core, casual dresses, light colors, or tomboy/skater/surfer. I like both a lot. Dresses are adorable, and I hang out with boys a lot so I can probably pull off the tomboy look. Seem more approachable for boys lookin for a friend/ someone to hang with. Idk. Maybe I‘ll do different ones different days? But then again I only have 3 casual dresses. So idk. 


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex, 

Thanks for getting in touch with your question – it sounds like you have started to think about what you want your own personal style to be and that you know you like both girly-ish girl/casual dresses and tomboy/skater/surfer a lot – that’s a good start! 

It’s good to remember that however you choose to dress, the most important thing is that you are comfortable with who you are and how you look. It’s nice to have the opportunity to experiment with different styles – this is a good way to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. You suggest doing different styles on different days, which sounds like a great idea – don’t be afraid to play around with it and develop your own unique sense of style. With time, you will get to know what feels right for you. There is a lovely article you might like to look at on our Childline website: How to learn to love the way you look – Childline 

If you feel like chatting more about this, we are always here to listen at Childline, 24/7, 365 days a year. We won’t judge you or tell you what to do, we are here to listen and to help you figure things out. You can chat with us through our webchat service by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at, or you can call us on our free phone line which is 1800 66 66 66.

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