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Getting feedback from teachers messes with my head

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I don’t think getting feedback on how I am doing in school is good for my mind as it messes with my head a bit. I could do extremely well for awhile and be happy about that then I would hear teachers feedback when I am not doing as well and they would basically just be explaining to me that I need to keep the balance etc. It’s not that I am not trying, it’s just I find that I could do really well for a few months and then I could slack a bit and not be as interested, it’s not burnout cause I have a good study plan. I asked one of the teachers would it be a good idea to focus on just school next year over it being the LC and not sports and things like that and she said no I wouldn’t recommend it as you need enjoyment too and said it’s very manageable to balance the two. I think I need to find ways to stay on top of it all consistently so I can always do well and not go from good to bad and then back to doing good and then back to doing not so good. This is important to me cause I have one year left and the LC is next year and I just want to do well all year round but I don’t know what I am doing wrong. I can’t seem to be able to keep the balance. I would appreciate some suggestions. Thanks

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Welcome to Ask Alex,
 
First of all, we want to commend your bravery for reaching out and sharing your thoughts and concerns about school and finding that balance. It’s completely normal to have moments of uncertainty and struggle, especially during a significant academic year like the LC. Many students your age face similar challenges.
 
There are three essential support services you can consider:
 
1) Talk to Your Teachers and Guidance Counsellors. Your teachers are there to help you succeed, and it’s okay to share your concerns with them. They can provide valuable insights and advice on how to maintain a consistent balance between your academic and extracurricular activities. Your guidance counsellor can also be a great resource for academic and personal support.
 
2) Peer Support. You’re not alone in this journey. Reach out to friends or classmates who may be going through similar experiences. Sharing your challenges and strategies with your friends can offer valuable emotional support and practical solutions.
 
3) Family Support. Don’t hesitate to have an open conversation with your family about your concerns. They care about your well-being and can provide guidance and encouragement.
 
Now, let’s focus on finding ways to maintain that balance. It’s great that you’re motivated to do well consistently. Here are some suggestions:
 
1)Time Management: Create a study schedule that allows for breaks and leisure activities. Time management tools like planners or apps can help you stay organized.
 
2) Set Realistic Goals: Break your academic goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Celebrate your achievements along the way to stay motivated.
 
3) Seek Enjoyment in Learning: Find aspects of your studies that genuinely interest you. This can make the learning process more enjoyable and sustainable.
 
4) Self-Care: Don’t forget to take care of your physical and mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and relaxation techniques can help you stay focused and reduce stress. Here is an article from the Childline website which may give you more information www.childline.ie/11-tips-to-help-you-prepare-for-your-exams/
 
Remember, it’s okay to ask for support when you need it. You can always contact Childline if you ever feel overwhelmed or need someone to talk to. We are open 24 hours a day, every day and we have somebody waiting to talk to you as soon as you feel ready to pick up your phone or have a web chat with us (1800 66 66 66 or Live Chat at www.childline.ie)
 
You’re taking important steps toward improving your academic journey, and with the right support and strategies, you can achieve your goals. Keep up the great work!
 
Alex

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