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Feel I'm a bad person

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i feel bad 🙁 cause i remeber when i was little like 9 or 8 i masturbated in diffrent places i was only young and didn’t know what masturbation was… i feel bad… i feel like i’m a bad person… i feel like im a horrbile family member to be around i think nobodys knows im not sure. i only taught myself what masturbation was when i searched it up online

Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex!
 
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your feelings with us. It takes a lot of courage to talk about things that have been on your mind, and it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Many people have similar experiences and feelings.
 
When you were younger, it’s normal to explore your body and have curiosity about how it works. At that age, you might not have known what masturbation was or that there were private and appropriate places for it. It’s a part of growing up and learning about yourself. The fact that you’re reflecting on this now shows maturity and self-awareness.
 
It’s completely understandable to feel embarrassed or guilty about things you did in the past, especially when you didn’t fully understand them. But it’s important to remember that what you did doesn’t make you a bad person. Masturbation is a natural behaviour, and many people discover it during childhood without knowing what it is or the social norms around it. Here is an article on masturbation www.childline.ie/lets-talk-about-masturbation/.
 
Your feelings of guilt and worry show that you care about how your actions affect others, which is a good thing. It’s ok to have made mistakes when you were younger and to learn from them as you grow. Being kind to yourself and recognising that you’ve learned and grown since then is crucial. This may be a helpful article for you www.childline.ie/stop-beating-yourself-up-why-we-all-need-more-self-compassion/.
 
If these feelings continue to bother you, talking to a trusted adult or counsellor can be very helpful. They can provide support and help you work through your feelings. Remember, it’s ok to seek help and talk about your experiences.
 
You can always contact us at Childline if you don’t feel up to talking to somebody you know just yet. Our freephone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Messenger at www.childline.ie (just click on the purple chat icon)if you would prefer to webchat with us. We are confidential, non-judgmental, open 24/7, and always here for you for any reason, any time.
 
Take care of yourself, and well done for getting in touch,
Alex

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