Pat's Answer

Even if you have done something wrong, can your mom beat you

Your Question

Even if you done something wrong can you mom beat you till you bruise? Can your mom never let you meet with friends even before the pandemic. Can your mom treat your sister so much better than you. Can you mom take your money. Can your mom side with your stepdad though you know your correct? Can your mom take your phone away even though you bought it yourself? Can you mom make you study 8 hours a day? Can your mom have access to all your social media accounts? 


Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Pat, thank you so much for trusting us with your thoughts.

You have a lot of questions about what your mom can do. Would we be right in thinking that these questions you have is telling us what has been going on for you at home with your mom? 

We would be really concerned for your safety if you are going through all this right now. No one has the right to hit you or hurt you in any way. You are taking the right steps in reaching out and seeking help. If you feel you are in any danger in your home at any time, you can contact the emergency services at 999 or 112. You have the right to be safe, always. 

It is your parents’ responsibility to ensure you are safe. You have the right to be safe and happy. Would there be another trusted adult that you could talk to about what is going on? This adult could be another parent, an aunt, uncle, or grandparent. We know that it can be hard to open up to someone who is close to us, so maybe talking to somebody outside of your family who you feel comfortable talking to might work better for you at first. It is important for your own physical and mental well-being that you get the help and support that you deserve. We know it can be difficult, but we also know how great it is for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.

Here is some information and articles that you might find helpful. Túsla is the Child and Family Agency in Ireland. In Túsla, there are social workers whose job it is to make sure that all people under the age of 18 are safe. You can find your local Túsla office here The Childline website has lots of information too which you may like to look at;; . 

You have done great in reaching out to us today. We would really like to talk to you more about what you have told us. You can get in touch with the Childline Team anytime. Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk or chat, and we really do want to listen to you. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66, by text at 50101 or through web chat on These services are open 24-hours a day, every day and are free and confidential. We will be able to help you look at some of the options that may be available to you.   

Remember, you have the right to support and to be safe and to be happy. You do not have to be alone during this tough time.   

We really hope to hear from you soon.    

Keep safe,     


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