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Emotionally abusive mother

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What do I do with my emotionally abusive mother?


Hi there, thanks for your question!

Firstly, we want to acknowledge how brave you are for reaching out about such a difficult situation. It’s not easy to talk about emotional abuse, especially when it’s coming from someone so close to you like your mother. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to feel safe and supported.
Emotional abuse can take many forms, including constant criticism, manipulation, and controlling behaviour. It’s important to remember that none of this is your fault. Everyone has the right to be treated with respect and kindness, especially by their family. Your well-being and mental health are crucial, and recognising the abuse is a significant first step towards seeking help.
One of the most effective ways to start addressing this issue is by confiding in someone you trust. This could be a teacher, school counsellor, relative, or a close friend. Sharing your experiences can provide emotional relief and can also be the first step in getting the help you need. Trusted adults can offer guidance and support, and they may also be able to help you through the next steps.
It’s also important to be aware of your rights. You have the right to protection and safety, and there are laws in place to help protect you from abuse. Túsla, the Child and Family Agency in Ireland) exists specifically to support young people in situations like yours. Their resources can offer advice, support, and even intervention if necessary. Their job is to make sure every young person under 18-years old, in Ireland, is living in a safe home. has been set up by young people who have used Túsla’s services. You can find lots of support and guidance on the website.
Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. We are here to help you at Childline. You can contact us by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Messenger at by clicking on the purple chat icon. Our service is confidential, non-judgmental, and available 24/7. We’re here for you for any reason, any time.
Take care, and please reach out if you need support.

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