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Don't want to be part of his wedding

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how do i tell my dad i dont want to be apart of his wedding? (not as the bride but as i think a flowergirl or something like that). he abused me when i was younger until he was kicked out. i dont want to attend his fucking wedding and i dont know how to say it because im still scared he’ll get upset at me for it

Answer

Hello there,
 
First off, we want to say how brave you are for reaching out. It’s never easy to talk about such personal and painful experiences, and it takes a lot of courage to do so. It’s completely understandable to feel scared and uncertain about how to approach this situation with your dad, especially given your past with him.
 
You have every right to feel safe and comfortable, and it’s important that your feelings are heard. It might help to write down exactly what you want to say to your dad. You could start with explaining how his past actions have affected you and why attending his wedding feels overwhelming. This way, you can make sure you express your feelings clearly and can refer back to your notes during the conversation.
 
If speaking to your dad directly feels too daunting, you might consider talking to another trusted adult first. They could help you communicate your feelings to your dad or even be there with you during the conversation for support. Remember, you don’t have to do this alone.
 
Above all, your safety and well-being are the most important things. You deserve to be in situations where you feel secure and respected. You are never alone; the Childline team is here to support you and explore your options with you. We are open 24 hours a day, every day. You can contact us for free at 1800 66 66 66 or by Messenger at www.Childline.ie (just click on the purple Messenger circle!).
 
Take care, and remember that your feelings matter.
 
Warm regards,
Alex

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