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Daydreams and fantasies

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Hey alex. So I want to tell you about my daydreams/Fantasies. Basically I pretend that my friends live in this house (like just us, no adults. And I’m mature enough. And I’m a singer, I do covers and occasionally a remake of my favorite things like the greatest showman or something. And Yeah. We play truth or dare, we have conversations, ect. I really want to stop, be in the real world, but the thing is, there’s nothing exciting about the real world…I’m homeschooled, so basically all I can do is art, and do stuff on my tablet. And my room is so messy, its extremely small. And weird shaped. And my entire bed is full so I sleep on the couch. And I just, its too messy and overwhelming to clean if it makes sense. I’ll clean if I’m at someone else’s house or something but like at me AND my dad’s, I don’t know its just different. I can procrastinate here. At other’s houses it feel temporary, like I can just stop. But at home, I can’t stop and take a break. Its such a big mess it’d take a while to get it all. And I’d make a bigger mess in the process, taking stuff out of drawers and making messy piles!! But yeah. (Im just wondering if you can help with both these situations? The fantasies and the disaster in my room. The disaster is just overwhelming. )

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Hey there, thanks for reaching out to us!
 
It sounds like you’re dealing with quite a lot, and it’s totally ok to feel overwhelmed. Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge that daydreaming and fantasising can be a way for our minds to escape from stress or boredom. It’s a common coping mechanism, especially when the real world feels dull or unexciting.
 
However, if you’re finding it hard to detach from these fantasies, it might be helpful to find small ways to bring more excitement into your daily life. This article from the Childline website may give you some ideas www.childline.ie/7-simple-things-you-can-do-to-improve-your-day/.
 
Since you mentioned feeling stuck in your messy room, maybe starting with small, manageable tasks could help. Break down the cleaning process into smaller steps and tackle one at a time. Don’t pressure yourself to do it all at once. And remember, it’s ok to ask for help if you need it. You deserve to live in a space that feels comfortable and safe.
 
As for your daydreams, maybe try to find new hobbies or activities that interest you. Exploring different interests can help you find joy in the real world. You may find this article helpful www.childline.ie/the-importance-of-having-a-hobby-or-interest-that-you-love/.
 
And if you ever need someone to talk to about anything, we’re here for you. You can always reach out to us at Childline by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or Messenger at www.childline.ie. We’re confidential, non-judgmental, and available 24/7. 
 
You’re not alone, and we’re here to support you through anything.
Alex

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