Alex's Answer

Hey there, thanks for reaching out to us,

 

What a good friend you are! It’s tough when someone we know might be going through a difficult time. First off, let your classmate know you’re there for them. Share that you’ve noticed some changes and ask how they’re feeling. Creating a safe space can encourage them to open up.

 

Remember, you’re not a professional, so know that you do not have to have all or any the answers to what your friend is going through. Encourage your friend to talk to a trusted adult, like a teacher, school counsellor, or their parents, who can provide the necessary adult support. Remind them that looking for help is a sign of strength, and assure them that it’s okay for them to not to have all the answers either. You can also offer to be with them when they talk to someone, if they’re comfortable with that.

 

You can follow up with your classmate. Let them know you care and are there for them, even if they’ve sought help. It’s important to maintain a supportive connection as they work through their feelings.  There are a lot of articles on mental health on the Childline website, which may be helpful for you and your friend. You can find them here www.childline.ie/how-i-feel.

 

Just as you are there to support your friend, it is really important that you have support for you too. Do you have an adult you feel comfortable talking to? Know that Childline is here for both you and your friend, should you not want to talk to somebody you know just yet. You can get in touch with us by phone on our free-phone number 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on www.childline.ie. Childline is open 24-hours a day, every day. You can call us anytime, for any reason.

 

Take care of yourself, and know that you don’t have to support your friend on your own,

Alex