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Boys don't ask me out

Your Question

why don’t boys ask me out??? its not that I want a bf but just seeing all the other girls get asked out by boys makes me think if im really that ugly or is my personality that bad?

Answer

Hey there, thanks for your question!
 
Firstly, let us just say that it’s completely normal to have these thoughts and feelings. Feeling left out or questioning why certain things aren’t happening for you can be tough, especially when it seems like everyone else around you is experiencing something you’re not. But please remember, you are not alone in feeling this way. Many people, regardless of age, go through similar experiences.
 
It’s important to understand that there could be many reasons why boys haven’t asked you out yet, and none of them have to do with your worth as a person. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of timing or circumstance. Boys, like anyone else, may be shy, unsure, or simply focused on other aspects of their lives at the moment. It doesn’t mean you’re unattractive or have a bad personality. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. You are unique and wonderful just as you are.
 
Instead of dwelling on why things haven’t happened yet, try focusing on the things you love about yourself and the activities that bring you joy. Building confidence and pursuing your interests will not only make you feel happier and more fulfilled but also attract people who appreciate you for who you are. You may find this article from the Childline website helpful www.childline.ie/these-are-the-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship/.
 
And remember, it’s ok to talk about your feelings with someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or someone else. And if you ever feel like you can’t talk to someone you know just yet, there are always places like Childline where you can reach out for support. Childline is here for you 24/7, offering non-judgmental and confidential support whenever you need it. Talk to us by phone at 1800 66 66 66 or on webchat at Childline.ie, just click on the purple Messenger circle and start your chat.
 
You are never alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help you get through life’s challenges.
 
Look after yourself, 
Alex
 

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