Alex's Answer

Hi and welcome to Ask Alex,

 

Thank you for reaching out and questioning things that are very real for you. It is important that we all have an outlet or space where we can freely speak about things that are going on for us without feeling embarrassed. By sending your question in today, you are probably asking not only for yourself but for quite a lot of other individuals who have similar questions.

 

You have asked, “Is it weird that I don’t like having to use the toilet in other places (grandparents’, aunts’, cousins’, etc.)?” The short answer is no, it’s not weird at all. We all have things that we are comfortable with and feel more relaxed when we are in a space we know and are used to, and the toilet is one of those places. It is quite a vulnerable place to be doing a pee or poop, and it can build up stresses when in different places due to the sounds, smells, etc. What exactly is it that makes you feel uncomfortable?

 

The important thing to remember is that we all need to go; every single person does. Unfortunately, we are not always in the comfort of our own home when nature calls, and we need to go. Holding it in for too long can cause many different issues, such as constipation or urinary infections. This can also be uncomfortable and may end up holding you back from getting involved in different things you want to do. It is crucial that you have a person you can talk to about this, whether it be a parent, grandparent, neighbour, or whoever you feel comfortable with. This issue could become more difficult as life goes on if you don’t get some support with it now.

 

You can try some things, like carrying a little air freshener or disinfectant spray if that might make you feel more comfortable. By questioning what it is you find difficult and exploring that, you will help yourself come up with different ideas that might make the process a little easier in other places.

 

If you feel this is something you would like to talk through some more, you can always contact our Childline team on the freephone number 1800 66 66 66, or chat through our webchat by clicking the purple Messenger circle on the website www.childline.ie. We are open 24/7, 365! 

 

We hope that some of the above information has been useful to you. Thanks for posting your question to us.

 

Look after yourself,

 

Alex