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I feel like I’m not good enough and I feel like I’m jealous and I don’t want to be. My only friend is always better than me and I feel constantly having to live up to my friend because I don’t want to be a failure. I love playing soccer on a girls team and they have elected my friend as best improved player of the year, when I know I try harder than her. I’m kinda happy for her but when I just feel like such a failure in comparison to her. Also I have told her of my struggles with my mental health and I feel she just shrugs it off saying small things that annoy her and saying everyone has bad days when she knows I feel bad everyday.
Please help me.
Is it optional to live with foster parents?

I normally talk to my brother for support when my dad treats me badly and recently i realised my brother tells my dad and things get even worse and I feel like I have no one to trust who can I talk to.
Today my dad installed a poker game on my laptop and it made me uncomfortable having it on it so i asked if i could delete it and i got yelled and im currently being punished and I feel so lonely because I cant talk to anyone because he got rid of my texting apps. I apologized being the bigger person and then i got shouted at saying i didnt mean my apolgy and now im in bigger trouble so my brother came around to "help" but instead it was just my dad who told him to help him with his arguement and it quickly turned into a blame game and every little thing i do was just slammed with hate and judgement. I feel like i want to die
Covid-19
the covid 19 pandemic is super scary because i have underlying conditions and so does my dad even though we don't get on all the time i wouldn't like to see anything happen to him:(
Can I leave home at 17?
Any tips on coming out to a possibly homophobic family?
is this anonymous
Hi Pat,

I had my first chat on Childline and it went horribly and I keep thinking about how bad it went, what can I do about the chat and the person talking to me? She made me so anxious and worried I felt ten times worse and I just really want to tell someone how bad it was and how anxious they made me feel, it’s supposed to be a place where I get help and support but instead I had a panic attack after I turned the chat off, it was so hard
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Hi Pat,
I feel like I’m not good enough and I feel like I’m jealous and I don’t want to be. My only friend is always better than me and I feel constantly having to live up to my friend because I don’t want to be a failure. I love playing soccer on a girls team and they have elected my friend as best improved player of the year, when I know I try harder than her. I’m kinda happy for her but when I just feel like such a failure in comparison to her. Also I have told her of my struggles with my mental health and I feel she just shrugs it off saying small things that annoy her and saying everyone has bad days when she knows I feel bad everyday.
Please help me.
Is it optional to live with foster parents?

I normally talk to my brother for support when my dad treats me badly and recently i realised my brother tells my dad and things get even worse and I feel like I have no one to trust who can I talk to.
Today my dad installed a poker game on my laptop and it made me uncomfortable having it on it so i asked if i could delete it and i got yelled and im currently being punished and I feel so lonely because I cant talk to anyone because he got rid of my texting apps. I apologized being the bigger person and then i got shouted at saying i didnt mean my apolgy and now im in bigger trouble so my brother came around to "help" but instead it was just my dad who told him to help him with his arguement and it quickly turned into a blame game and every little thing i do was just slammed with hate and judgement. I feel like i want to die
Covid-19
the covid 19 pandemic is super scary because i have underlying conditions and so does my dad even though we don't get on all the time i wouldn't like to see anything happen to him:(
Can I leave home at 17?
Any tips on coming out to a possibly homophobic family?
is this anonymous
Hi Pat,

I had my first chat on Childline and it went horribly and I keep thinking about how bad it went, what can I do about the chat and the person talking to me? She made me so anxious and worried I felt ten times worse and I just really want to tell someone how bad it was and how anxious they made me feel, it’s supposed to be a place where I get help and support but instead I had a panic attack after I turned the chat off, it was so hard
I'm seeking advice on my rights while I in foster care regarding me seeing my family
How to make a diclosure about something you seen
Hi, my parents won't ever listen to me, they expect so much from me and I have tried explaining to them that I am trying my best but it is still not enough. they get mad at me from the silliest things. an example, cause of the corona I thought I had left my math book at home but it turns out I actually left it in school. I didn't mean to and I apologized but my mother got so mad and told me I was stupid and I could never do things right. I also have hyperactivity and I knew that and a couple of months ago a teacher pointed that out , and "ever since" she said that I have gotten "worse" says my mother. no, all my sports have been cancelled and I spend most of my time indoors, i'm dying here.

i know i seem dramatic but there are other things, i'm the oldest sibling ( 12 ) and I go to bed at 8:30, so does my 6 year old sister. I'm not allowed all the social media apps except snapchat. And i have a iphone 4, i don't mean to sound ungrateful but i feel i deserve maybe a 6, i moved schools when i was 8 and it was hard for me. i suffered from pretty bad anxiety. I HAD BONES IN MY FEET THAT WERE NOT STRAIGHT AND MY MOTHER BLAMED ME FOR IT. she said it was from all the times i had done flips without the mat ( when it wasn't, the doctor said) . I had to have an operation. i just feel so unloved and underappreciated. i do lots of helpful things that my mother doesn't see, i make my isters lunch and sometimes dinner. yet when i ask to stay up later i get shouted at for "always" wanting more.



its really affecting my mental health and i just want to die, i have family up there, and at least my grandparents love me

please help me i have no one to talk to
how can u deal with emotional abuse