Pat's Answer

To Pat / 13 May 2020

Arguing with my parents

Your Question

Hi pat, lately I’ve been arguing with my parents alot especially my dad. I feel like I’ve been getting blamed for things I havent done and my mental health is lowering alot. Whenever I try reach out I end up crying and just losing it. Quarantine is just making it ten times worse because I cant leave my house and talk to my friends in person about how I’m feeling. Every emotion just turns to anger. Is there anyway that is easy to help calm down nerves or just help myself un stress about these things. Its probably vague but I just wanted to see if there was anyway .

From Pat / 20 May 2020


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Pat today.


You have done very well explaining to us how you are feeling at the moment. You are arguing with your parents a lot lately and feel you are getting blamed for things you haven’t done. This is not good for your mental health you say, and that is totally understandable.


Have you been able to have a chat with your dad to tell him how you are feeling? You would have the right to let him know how hard you are finding things at the moment. You have the right to get help and support and you have the right to talk to a trusted adult about feeling the way you do. That would be someone that knows you well and whom you feel comfortable talk to.



Childline understands how difficult things are for young people at the moment and you say yourself quarantine is making it ten time worse. You have had to adjust to a whole new way of life due to Covid-19. You don’t have the support of your friends and you are finding that difficult as well. Also, with not being in school you are missing out on all of your normal daily supports and that is also difficult for young people right now. Because restrictions are easing a little, do you think maybe you will be able to meet with some of your friends soon? It sounds like you are really missing them. 


You may find some helpful articles on our website about family relationships and also about your mental health.


Alternatively, you can contact Childline anytime and we would be more than happy to chat with you. We are a free, non-judgemental service and are open 24 hours a day at 1800 66 66 66. If you prefer, you can contact our free text service on 50101 or you can have a Web Chat with us through


We are always here to listen and support you. 


Thank you for contacting Ask Pat and we wish you the very best.

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