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Anxiety getting bad

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how do i know my anxiety is getting bad? i knew i had hints of anxiety but lately my hands have been shaking constantly no matter what and i always feel anxious in my arms and legs, what should i do? and why are my hands so shaky?


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, but we also know how important it is to talk about our worries and concerns. You have asked what you should do when experiencing anxiety, how to know when your anxiety is getting bad, and why your hands become shaky. Before we look at what we can do to help with anxiety, we need to understand exactly what anxiety is.
Anxiety is an unpleasant feeling associated with apprehension, uneasiness, and worry. It is a very common condition. Any one of us, irrespective of age, gender, or background, can be affected. It has emotional and behavioural effects, and it can also affect our bodies physically by making our stomachs sore, causing light-headed or dizzy spells, making us feel like we need to go to the bathroom, causing our faces to go red, or, as you mentioned, causing shaky hands.
Anxiety is a sign something needs our attention. It can be protective, letting us know there may be danger or something is risky. It can also be a positive thing. Feeling anxious about something like an exam can be a motivator to study. But sometimes, feelings of anxiety can become overwhelming and interfere with our daily lives. A healthy amount of anxiety is OK and can keep you safe, but anxiety can sometimes build up over time and be difficult to manage.
Anxiety can make us feel scared, sad, or angry with the people around us. It can also make us believe bad things are going to happen or that things are worse than they are. Here are some things that you could try to help you cope with these anxious feelings: identify the factors in your life which lead to your anxiety, consider the stress factors in your life, access support services such as talk therapies, try relaxation techniques like breathing exercises, mindfulness, yoga, light physical exercise, and spending time outdoors.
Even on a bad day, there are good moments in it. Consider keeping a gratitude diary and noting three good things that happen each day; this can contribute to building self-esteem. Remember, it’s completely normal to feel these things from time to time, but it’s also important to talk about them and get help when needed. You may have a trusted adult that you could talk to about the anxiety you are experiencing, like a parent, relative, friend, teacher, or neighbour.
Speaking to a trusted adult can help you to tackle the issue head-on, and if needed, they can assist you in accessing services available to young people who experience anxiety. A visit to your local GP may also be beneficial. Sharing our problems and worries can be very helpful and can have a positive effect on the outcome. Anxiety is something that may not stop completely, but with the right measures in place, you will be better equipped to manage it.
One resource which you may find helpful is the Digital Mental Health and Wellbeing Programmes available through the ISPCC. These programmes offer valuable support and guidance for managing anxiety, and you can access them at your own pace, with a supporter along the way. There is lots more information about them here:
There is an article on the Childline website on how to reframe anxious thoughts which you may also find useful: If you would like to talk about this in more detail, you are very welcome to chat with us through our freephone service on 1800 66 66 66 or through our webchat service by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.
Thank you for reaching out to us.
Take care, and know you do not have to face anything on your own,

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