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Another kid keeps sexualising me and bullying me

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A kid keep sexualising and bullying me and I have no idea what to do since it’s been since I was little. He’s younger than me and when I asked his mother to talk to him about she said “oh my god you girls are so sensitive, boys will be boys!” But he says really inappropriate things. For example I was walking home completely covered and he said that I have a great rack of breasts and another time told me I had a huge ass that he would love to ride. I’m extremely uncomfortable and even though I’ve told my parents and they’ve went to his, nothing is happening. He’s also physically touched me and when I refused hit me with a metal bar on the head. I’m really confused and scared. Please help me 

Answer

Hi there and welcome to ask Alex, 

It sounds like you have been going through a very difficult time. You say you have been bullied and have experienced inappropriate sexual behaviour and sexual harassment for a few years by a boy younger than you, would that be right?  

The feelings you are experiencing are normal and you have taken the first step in reaching out for help. We are sorry to hear that you did not receive the support you deserve when reaching out to his mother. It is not ok for anyone to experience what you have. It is important to know, that this is not your fault, and you have a right to feel safe and receive support.  

For more information on inappropriate sexualised behaviour and sexual harassment you can read more by following the links: www.childline.ie/what-does-inappropriate-sexual-behaviour-look-like/ ; www.childline.ie/what-to-do-if-you-experience-sexual-harassment/  

You mentioned that you went to your parents but when they spoke with the young boy’s parents nothing changed. That must have been very difficult for you. How do you feel about speaking with your parents about this and telling them how you feel? We understand that it can be difficult to talk about these things and it is important that we do this with a trusted adult. A trusted adult may be your parents, teacher or a family member.  

Here at Childline, we are always here to listen, and you can talk about whatever you want. Childline is a free, confidential and non-judgemental service. You can contact us by free phone on 1800 66 66 66 or online chat at www.childline.ie. You can start a chat with us at any time by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. 

We hope this helps you.  

Take Care of yourself, 

Alex  

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