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Afraid to introduce my boyfriend to my family

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My boyfriend wants me to introduce him to my mom but i am afraid my mom won’t love it because she wants me to get something doing first 

Answer

Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex.
 
Thanks for your message. You mentioned that your boyfriend wants to meet your mom, but you are afraid your mum won’t love it, as she wants you to do something first.t.
 
We see you are at a crossroads with the people closest to you. It is tricky to make everyone happy, and most of the times, it is not in our power to do so. We are wondering, what do you want? At the end of the day, it comes down to what you’d like to happen. Are you excited about introducing your boyfriend to your mom, or is it only his wish? How do you feel about it? How does it make you feel when you imagine it happening? How would you like it to happen when it does and what would you need to feel comfortable about it? 
 
We often forget to consider our own wishes and feelings, but they’re just as important as anyone else’s, especially when it directly involves us. It might be uncomfortable if you’ve never done it before, but it takes two to make any relationship work, and communication is key to any healthy relationship.
 
We suggest exploring your feelings and wishes regarding this situation. Once you know how it makes you feel and what you want, discuss it openly with your boyfriend and mom.
 
We know this is not easily done, and that sometimes talking to someone else about it first may make it easier. That’s why we would like to remind you that Childline is here for you. We can be contacted over the phone at 1800 66 66 66 or through  Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie We are open 24/7/365, so there is always somebody here to talk or chat with you, anonymously and non-judgmentally.
 
We hope this advice is helpful!
 
Warm regards, and remember, you are never alone,
Alex

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