How Will I Tell Someone?

Before deciding anything, you might want to take a few steps to confirm that you are pregnant.  Even a home pregnancy test is not completely accurate and you might want to visit a GP or clinic to find out for sure.

If you’re scared or nervous about seeing a doctor that’s completely natural.  It’s a difficult thing to have to go through and you don’t have to be alone in the process.  You might want to do is to talk to someone you trust about what’s going on. It can be difficult to know what to say, but a trusted friend, school counsellor, youth leader, or relative might be a good listening ear. If you’re not sure of what words to use, you’re welcome to ring Childline to have a chat about what you might say. We’re here 24 hours a day at 1800 66 66 66.

On the other hand, some people prefer to see a doctor or counsellor on their own to determine how far along they are and to talk through all of the different options.  Everyone is different in how they react and feel in a situation like this and there’s no right or wrong way to be feeling.

You might be worried a doctor or counsellor will tell your parents that you are pregnant.  Most doctors and nurses and counsellors follow a code of practice to pass on information about your visit if they think you’re in danger.  If you are worried about a doctor telling your parents, you can always ask the doctor or counsellor ahead of time. 

It might help to talk about it with your parents before you go see a doctor.  It can be really scary and your parents might be good support for you when you’re going through a tough time.  You do have the right to talk to someone about what’s going on.
If you can’t think of the words to say or want to talk to someone in confidence, Childline is here 24 hours a day. You can write us a message on the website or ring us.

  • If you are pregnant you won’t be able to hide it forever and sooner or later you will have to tell someone.  If you live at home with your parents you will probably have to tell them at some stage because they will notice that you’re pregnant. You can start by thinking through what you will say and who you will say it to.
  • Keep in mind that no matter who you decide to tell, they might be shocked.
  • Try to imagine what words you would like to use when you tell the person and whether you would like someone else in the room with you
  • Try to keep in mind that you are taking responsibility, responding maturely and making your own decisions. They may respect and support you more than you could imagine.
  • Ask your friend or relatives for help, they may be able to make phone calls or help you talk to someone who can tell you your options.
  • If your friend or relative isn’t able to help you, try to find someone who will.  If you feel you can’t turn anywhere, you can ring Childline on 1800 66 66 66.