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kate123July 19, 2010#1

Okay so I know I'm going to sound like a total bitch but I need help here. So there's this guy and he's like my best friend ever, and we can talk for ages about random things and never get bored I think he sort of likes me and I sort of like him back but (this is the mean part) he's not like a supermodel but he's lovely and I would go out with him but I know my friends would make fun of me and I don't want that. Also I think the reason I'm thinking about going out with him is because i haven't had a boyfriend of guy I like if you know what I mean. Honestly I don't know if I should or if I'm just lonely or something. I don't want to ruin our friendship because I tell him everything and if I lost him I would be a little lost because we go through the same things family wise and it can be tough.
Please I need help!!

ChildlineJuly 20, 2010#2

Hi,

Welcome back to the Public Message Board in Childline.

It sounds like things are a little tough for you right now. It is understandable though that you feel you might have feelings for your friend as it seems that he plays a big part in your life.

It sounds like you are very good friends with this boy as you feel that you can talk to him about anything. It is very important that you feel that you can tell your friends the things that are worrying you and feel like you can just have a chat with them if you are bored.

In a relationship though it is very important that you feel comfortable with yourself and that you feel wanted. You are a unique person so sometimes you might want to do things that your friends don’t like and they might like to do things that you don’t like but this is what makes us all different. You might see things in this boy that none of your friends can see because you have such a close friendship with him.

From what you have said it seems that you and your friend have a lot of things in common. This can be why people have such good friendships. We wouldn’t tell you what to do because we believe that you know best what is right for you at the end of the day. Some people need time to think things through and look at how things could change if you were to become more that friends with this boy. There is no rush on you coming to a decision and sometimes it helps to talk to someone we trust such as a parent, sibling, relative and so on. They can help us see things in a different light. Perhaps this is something you could think about.

Childline also offers other services to people under the age of 18. Feel free to leave a message in the Private Message Board where only you and Childline can see the message as it is all confidential. There is also a One-to-one service which is like the chat on Facebook or Msn where you can chat about anything you like. Teentxt is another service that Childline offers which is also confidential and you can chat about your thoughts and feelings about what is going on in your life. All you need to do is text the word ‘talk’ to 50101 from your mobile.

Take care for now.